Love Will Keep Us Together
Do you believe that your marriage will last forever? Whether you're single or married, you want to believe that it's possible to find lasting love. The news that "The Captain and Tennille" are seeking a divorce. Toni Tennille filed for divorce from her husband, "Captain" Daryl Dragon, was surprising to those who remember their popularity in the 1970's for their hit "Love Will Keep Us Together". The couple, aged 71 and 73, was married for 39 years. Their hit song and long marriage made them an iconic symbol for the institution of marriage. Therefore, the news of their divorce came as a shock and disappointment to many, and added a bitter irony their song's lyrics.
In 2010, Tennille announced that her husband had a neurological disorder similar to Parkinson's, which seriously impaired his ability to play music as well as he was able to before. Some have wondered if the divorce was motivated by a calculated plan to preserve assets in the face of mounting medical expenses. However, Dragon has reportedly stated that he was blindsided by the divorce and didn't see it coming.
The news has caused some to wonder if they are vulnerable to a divorce in the future. The truth is, no one can predict the future with certainty, many things are out of our control. However, we can control how prepared we are to deal with it, and minimize the damage when things go wrong. The best way to accomplish this in a marriage is to create a prenuptial or postmarital agreement. While we don't consider such agreements romantic, it's unwise to ignore the practical issues in relationships. Walking around humming the lyrics to "Love Will Keep Us Together" is fine, as long as you aren't being naive and have protected your interests as best as you can.
Some people think a premarital or postmarital agreement is only for the rich. However, it can cover many other important topics beside money, such as child custody and residence in the marital home. Such agreements are crucial when children are involved. In the event that the marriage is dissolved, you need to have an agreement in place for custody and other matters, rather than wind up spending needed assets fighting over the issues in court. Moreover, assets are another one of the things in life that are subject to change. One spouse might start off in the marriage with no assets, but wind up inheriting money, gaining more career or business success, etc.
Although many are saddened by the news of the Captain and Tennille's divorce, perhaps it can serve as a positive reminder to those who aren't properly prepared for life's uncertainties. If you've been afraid to bring up the topic, now is the time to avoid being blindsided. It's much more uncomfortable to deal with an expensive divorce and time-consuming litigation because the issues haven't already been settled in advance.