Both people in a relationship should feel valued and cherished. The "prize" mindset is most effective when it's mutual, ensuring that neither person feels overlooked or undervalued.
You know if you can relate to the below points: She is not trying to make a home out of the house you share. She is not trying to correct you. She doesn't bother to include you in her plans.. You two don't argue much because she prefers to let go. She doesn't let you about her day.