Once you buy a home that's part of an HOA, you automatically become a member of the HOA. HOA rules are legally binding, and you must adhere to all rules and regulations in the governing document. Yes, there are bylaws that you may not like, but there are no HOA loopholes.
Duties and powers of an HOA's board, granted by the NCPCA and the community's declaration, include enforcement of covenants, adopting budgets, assessing and collecting member fees, maintaining and regulating commons areas, and acting on behalf of the association in legal matters. N.C. Gen. Stat. §47F-3-102.
Is there any way to get around HOA rules? While you can propose rule changes through proper channels, there's no legal way to simply ignore or “get around” the HOA's covenants, conditions, and restrictions (CC&Rs) that you agreed to when purchasing in the community.