The person serving the papers must try to give them to you in person before mailing any papers. If the server was unable to find you, then you should have gotten another set of papers left with someone for you, or a set of papers on your door. If all you got was one set of papers in the mail, this is bad service.
Service of process is giving the other parties in the court case the documents that were filed in the case so that they have notice that a lawsuit was filed against them and they have the opportunity to respond.
Service of Notice or "serve" means personal delivery or delivery postage prepaid via regular United States Postal Service mail.
A person serving papers must be 18 years of age or older and must not be a party to the case (CPLR 2103a). Papers may be served by a process server, friend or relative of a party so long as he or she is not a party to the case.
Threatening someone with small claims court can be considered unethical, especially if the threat is made without a genuine intention to pursue legal action. Here are some points to consider:
If substituted or nail and mail service were used, the affidavit of service must be filed with the County Clerk within 20 days of the date of service.
You start a lawsuit by filing a complaint. In some circumstances, you file a petition or a motion. The court has several complaint forms that you may use in drafting your complaint. The forms are available online and at the Pro Se Intake Unit.