To prove cohabitation, you will need to show that your ex is residing with another person, sharing household expenses and that they are holding themselves out as a couple. While the proof of sexual activity can be difficult to prove, it will generally be presumed when the other factors are proven.
In the state of California, the law presumes that living with someone else reduces your need for support. You will need to prove to a judge that you still need the same amount of alimony. Otherwise, it will be reduced or terminated.
Misconduct: Certain behaviors can also lead to the disqualification of alimony. For instance, if a spouse is found to have engaged in financial misconduct, such as hiding assets or failing to disclose financial information during the divorce proceedings, this can result in disqualification.
Alimony is usually around 40% of the paying party's income. This number is different in different states and different situations. The court also looks at how much the other party makes or could make and how much they need to maintain their standard of living.
If you are still living with your spouse or former spouse, alimony payments are not tax-deductible. You must make payments after physical separation for them to qualify as tax-deductible. Don't file a joint tax return. If you and your spouse file a joint income tax return, you can't deduct alimony payments.
Format of the letter: introduce yourself, state how long you've known the person and in what capacity. Choose 2 to 3 reasons why you support them and write a brief paragraph on each. Close with a sentence reiterating your support.
Prove your spouse is cohabiting with someone else: If you can prove that your spouse is living with someone else, you may be able to get out of paying spousal support altogether. Likewise, if you can show that your spouse can earn a reasonable living, you may be able to have your alimony payments reduced or eliminated.