In most cases the average amount would be $150 per couple. Family members, close friends and business partners, for example from a jointly owned business would more than likely give a larger amount.
$300 as a couple as a baseline, $500 for close friends. This is also in line with what we received as gifts for our wedding in NYC in 2017. For context we're both from middle class NY area families and got married in our late 30s.
Use ``or'' - if you use ``and'' both people have to sign it for it to be deposited. Not only is it easier on the couple but, that way, if you do get the bride's last name wrong because of name changing issues, it won't matter. Groom can just sign those checks.
If you don't think it will offend the couple, the safest option is to address the check to the member of the couple you feel closest to. If you're unsure of whether or not that person will be changing their last name, use their maiden name, or the last name they had before the wedding.
Always Write Out the Couple's Full Names. You should also resist your excitement to turn the check into a sentimental document by using a playful format like, “Mr. You Can Make the Check Out to One Person or Both. Use "or" Instead of "and" If You Write Out Both Partner's Names. Fill Out the Rest of the Check Properly.
Any individual who, within any calendar year, makes a New York gift of a present interest in excess of the annual exclusion or a gift of a future interest of any amount, unless excepted, is required to file a New York State gift tax return.