The first step in getting a civil harassment restraining order is to tell the court about the harassment, stalking, threats, or harm you've experienced. The first step in getting a domestic violence restraining order is to tell the court about the abuse you've experienced and the protection you want.Yes in California you can file for a restraining order as a self representing litigant or in simple terms: a person without a lawyer. The court provides a variety of online services such as finding resources and information, accessing and filling out your forms, and viewing your case. Service of Process is the legal procedure of formally delivering court documents to the individual against whom the restraining order is sought. Importantly, you can request a temporary restraining order without notifying the abuser first. Your attorney will be aware of all the financial relief options and how to make sure you get the protection you need without breaking the bank. The completion and filing of any California court forms should only be done so under counsel of an attorney licensed in the state of California. In Los Angeles and many courts in California, temporary restraining order requests are handled the same day they are filed. If you do not go to court, the judge can make the restraining order without hearing your side of the story.