How can you submit without being a door mat? Start by praying for your husband. Pray for him to be a good leader. Pray for him to treat you with love and to honor you. Pray for yourself too. Pray that God helps you see what is trivial and what matters. Pray that you can express your needs and wants clearly.
Submission looks like respecting your husband's point of view. It means humbly sharing your opinion with him. It means not invalidating him, especially in front of others. It means trusting his decision as a leader, while feeling empowered to give your own point of view.
Biblical submission in marriage is a wife making a choice not to overtly resist her husband's will. That is not to say she cannot disagree with him or that she cannot express her opinion. Indeed, a wife who practices submission is by definition a woman with the strength of character.
“Wives submit to your husband” is about the relationship between Christ and the Church. “Be subject to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, be subject to your husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
A wife can show submission by asking for her husband's input and counsel on matters such as finances, career choices, and family decisions. By doing so, she demonstrates her love and respect for her husband and shows that she values his wisdom and guidance.