If you decide to do it alone, your letter should state the specific defamatory statements made, confirm that they are defamatory, indicate the reputational harm caused, demand an apology and retraction of those statements, and demand that they cease making further statements failing which you will sue them.
The person serving the papers puts the documents to be served into an envelope, addressed to the party to be served and sends them by first-class mail. Do not mail the papers yourself. The person mailing the papers also includes a copy of the Proof of Service form.
In California, you must prove five elements to establish a defamation claim: An intentional publication of a statement of fact; That is false; That is unprivileged; That has a natural tendency to injure or causes “special damage;” and, The defendant's fault in publishing the statement amounted to at least negligence.
For example, Californians wishing to file a claim against a business for deceptive practices or some other infraction outlined in the state's Consumer Legal Remedies Act (CLRA) must send a demand letter at least 30 days before filing a lawsuit.
However, sending a letter of demand can have its disadvantages. Depending on the situation, the other party may feel threatened and respond negatively, or they may not respond at all. They might engage a lawyer, or they might even start legal action against you.
You are unable to have the papers properly served, you need to go in on your court date and ask the judge To allow service by mail Or by publication in a newspaper, but either of these types of service must be ordered by the judge.
For example, Californians wishing to file a claim against a business for deceptive practices or some other infraction outlined in the state's Consumer Legal Remedies Act (CLRA) must send a demand letter at least 30 days before filing a lawsuit.