The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

There are three main elements to the Gottman method: Assessment. The assessment process involves both joint and individual interviews with the couple. ... Framework. During a conversation between the couple and the therapist, they decide together on the sessions' duration and frequency going forward. Intervention.

Gottman dubbed these, The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. They are Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt and Stonewalling. While most relationships will have some of these, healthy relationships don't use them nearly as often and do more to repair them when they are used.

The Gottman library of interventions include a Repair Checklist. It's a list of phrases clustered into different categories including I FEEL, SORRY, GET TO YES. The idea is that as conversations escalate, you can turn to the list and identify which phrases will and won't work.

Gottman's 7 Principles 1) Sharing love maps. 2) Nurturing fondness and admiration. 3) Turning toward each other, instead of away. 4) Letting your partner influence you. 5) Solving your solvable problems. 6) Overcoming gridlock. 7) Creating shared meaning together.

Gottman's 7 Principles 1) Sharing love maps. 2) Nurturing fondness and admiration. 3) Turning toward each other, instead of away. 4) Letting your partner influence you. 5) Solving your solvable problems. 6) Overcoming gridlock. 7) Creating shared meaning together.

Fully HIPAA compliant, the questionnaire consists of 337 questions about friendship, intimacy, emotions, conflict, values, and trust. It includes questions about parenting, housework, finances, and individual areas of concern.